Break the CHAIN – Forgive
Is forgiveness connected to human’s mental health?. Many people do not understand the importance of forgiveness to their mental and physical health, but basically, I would emphasis on scientific investigations and psychological perspectives on the importance of forgiveness to human’s mental health.
(Un)forgiveness is like a poison, it kills the immune system gradually and creates dent to the inner part of the heart, it can aggravate into antagonism, robs us of the purpose of God for our lives and can gradually diminish our mental and physical health. It is a desirable and strong quality that is very difficult to put up; many people see it as a sign of weakness.
Your definition of forgiveness can reshape the manner and ways you experience it.
People that are struggling with unforgiveness usually show certain signs such as
• unavoidable bursts of annoyance and this can cause pains & symptoms of stress.
• make hateful or disreputable accusation concerning their enemy to smash up their reputation, they belittle everyone and they are usually very arrogant.
• distrustful or pessimistic twisting of obsessive action.
They have an account of injury in their mind and while recounting it, they transfer aggression on others.
• They are very difficult to control and failed to understand that forgiveness can cause an incapability to deal satisfactorily with regular social associations.
• experience crashing unfairness, they never stop blaming & holding people responsible for their feelings.
• They usually develop symptoms of anxiety, depression high blood pressure sick and fallen sick or slowly shorten their lifespan
Research ascertain that people that forgive have elevated intensity of pleasantness, meditation and lower levels of neuroticism. Unforgiving people never stop replaying events that have happened many years or months and this can be so distressful to the heart and also delineate the whole thing they do and causes unpleasant sensations. They will try as much as they could to return the hurt by spreading propaganda about the person that hurt them and being the friend with anyone that hurts them makes you their enemy.
I had a conversation with some couples of people in regards to the fruit of forgiveness, if is personally developed through the hearing or reading of the word of God, has to do with personality or could be biological, I mean if ii it in the genetic material “DNA” perhaps could be an environmental influence
am highly impressed with different opinions I gathered with people, honestly, I learnt a lot of lessons and to be sincere, this topic exposed me to different people with forgiving mind and people with the very unforgiving mind, unfortunately, they do not know how important it is to their mind and body to let go of issues and those that offend them.
Fundamentally, you don’t have to continue to Condole bad behaviour or reunite with the person who never stops toying with your integrity or refused to apologize for their wrongdoing, but you need to forgive because it will lessen your chances of being exposed to anxiety, depression and other psychiatric disorders, as well as physical health danger such as heart attack, cholesterol level, the relief you of heavy pain, blood pressure and help you get healthy sleep. dealing with toxic people can be so infuriating; however
I understand that the wrongdoer and the wounded may perceive the event differently and have different emotional status; the wrongdoer might feel guilty, feelings of shame and self-justification while the wounded person will be full of anger, resentment, hurt, fear, hostility and hatred towards the wrongdoer, especially when it falls short of someone’s moral standard and personal expectation or accusation over things you didn’t do. Therefore, it required unassuming nature and it takes time before emotions can be healed.
I understand that the wrongdoer and the wounded may perceive the event differently and have different emotional status; the wrongdoer might feel guilty, feelings of shame and self-justification while the wounded person will be full of anger, resentment, hurt, fear, hostility and hatred towards the wrongdoer, especially when it falls short of someone’s moral standard and personal expectation or accusation over things you didn’t do. Therefore, it required unassuming nature and it takes time before emotions can be healed.
How to overcome unforgiveness
Recognise the source and tackle it by discussing with the person that you feel causes you pain and just apologise if possible, as this can heal your impulsive aggression.
Some people are potentially dangerous and you don’t necessarily need to reunite with the person that hurt you, but letting go is not enough to relief you, somewhat, display humanity, empathy and show consideration, having it in mind that forgiveness will benefit you as well.
Forgiveness Therapy
Forgiveness and Spirituality in Psychotherapy
Don’t get me wrong, it is a normal thing to feel hurt as humans or keep tolerating things that cause a lot your heart pains, but it is also very important to forgive, not because the offender has not broken you down, but to facilitate your spiritual healing and also sustain your physical and emotional well-being. Forgiveness could be healing, but it is extremely difficult to display and you can’t push it on anyone; however, it is a very healthy choice if the person can breakthrough resistance.
Ability to forgive existed in the human trait, some have a natural capacity to forgive than others; however, we have it at the back of our mind that we are imperfect and you’ve done worst to others and if they have the same feeling towards you, how would you feel? Re-examine your behaviour, challenge your sense of entitlement and help yourself to live a healthy lifestyle.
Forgiveness aid in remodelling self-esteem and self-confidence, it gives you the ability to do away with chronic interpersonal stressors overload you with the excessive yoke.
