The Secret of Happy Family
A happy man is a right thinking man. He tends to handle difficult situations in a better way than others. He knows that feeling upset with some things in life, especially things that one can hardly do anything to ameliorate does not worth it. The choice to be happy or sad is up to you to make. No matter the condition you are in, you can decide to be strong in the face of this economic difficulty that is really toughening the masses or can completely give up and allow things to just work out by themselves.
I believe that this difficulty we are experiencing now with the economic situation of the country is temporary and we should map out a strategy to overcome it as it comes. People should try not to allow it cut their happiness short, allowing it to get to them that much.
Some men use this as an excuse to stay away from their immediate family all in the name of trying hard to make ends meet. Women use it as an opportunity to be away from home for almost 20 hours of each working day ignoring the home front, which is the most vital area of their work.
Men have not really asked themselves why they should have all the money that can solve their physical needs, material needs and still end up not getting down to enjoy the money the way they should either because this child is giving them one problem or the other- they are paying for the improper job done at the home front.
Some men travel on a business trip for a month or even more than that forgetting that women cannot do the job of bringing the children properly without his support. I am not condemning the man because he is doing some business to support his family. What I am against is a situation where the man’s prerogative is that business and money involve in it. They forget that for them to be able to enjoy that money, their “homework” has to be in order, if not there will be hiccup in retirement age.
Family members should share some moments of joy and at times moments of sorrow together. These periods in one’s live ought to be shared with loved ones. Yes, not always with “bottles.” This will definitely give opportunity to the ones you are struggling to please to understand the nature of your work and why you have to always be away from home leaving mummy to be with them even when they are tired of mummy’s company and need daddy’s. Some families, because of temporary difficulty at home front have really given up on priorities they set for themselves even before marriage.
An ideal family should have time spent together. How many families can boast of dedicating an hour together to God? It is hard to see these days. Not with the wife rushing out to get food ready, the kids ready for school and she hurrying off to work and the man of the house hurrying to keep some business appointments. Many at times, the kids are left in the mercies of their teachers or peer groups.
Parents should have some happy moments with their children. Most children go out of their ways to be mischievous just to get their parents’ attention and when they don’t, they end up hurting themselves and even their parents the more because within them they felt their parents do not love them. What please children the more is spending some quality time with their parents even if it means once in a week. To them, it is a cherished moments that can last for now, it is temporary.
Our children are our future. The more we diligently invest in them, the more our dividends accumulate.
Fathers should spend some quality time with their kids to always tell them stories ( even if it means repeating the one he had already told them before). This will really help him to relax and able to know some of his children’s characters and be able to relate with them accordingly.
Mothers are always there for the kids, and fathers ought to be there for them to help mould a complete character out of their children.
Children become what you make out of them. You don’t expect them to be happy kids all the time when you have not spent time to work on that aspect of their lives.
Money can buy happiness, but a limited aspect of it. Have you bothered to ask yourself, what you can hold onto when material aspects fail? Money can buy love, but have you bothered to ask yourself the kind of love it is. Money can buy virtually everything even life (with a life-supporting machine) to some extent, what kind is the question?
Do not get carried away by material things. Devote your life to bringing yourself happiness in life by doing the right thing at the right time. “A stitch in time they say, saves nine.”